Relationships are complicated, and as such some of the so called ”cues/signals”should be ignored, but some quirks are such bright red flags flapping violently in the wind that they have to be acknowledged. Whether that means working together on a compromise or accepting that a person is just all wrong for you, here are some warning signs to be on the look out for.
1. They can’t stop telling you how perfect you are.
It sounds irresistible at first, but there’s nothing more infuriating than being put on a pedestal by a partner. This person doesn’t really see you as you rather you’re a projection of some perfect idea they have in their head, and anytime you shatter those expectations by being a normal, flawed, breathing human being, they’re impossible to console. Oh yeah, and someone being that obsessed with you is SCARY.
2. Their sex drive is much higher or lower than yours.
In this ,there is great emphasis on the adverb’MUCH’ .Of a truth,there isnt a wrong amount of sex to have (or not have) in life, but it is pertinent that you and your partner have a similar libido or, at the very least, a plan to handle any differences. What if one partner’s vision of an ideal sex life is getting it on nearly every night, while the other is content with having sex just a few times a month? When one partner is constantly initiating sex and the other isn’t in the mood very often, you’re in for a journey of crushed egos, hurt feelings, emotional pressure, and resentment from both sides.
3. They push your physical boundaries in “innocent” ways.
More often than not we treat this particular flag with not as much as a wave of a hand, but the truth remains that as ‘irrelevant or casual ‘as this sounds,this might be a sign they don’t respect your right to your own body and could try to push those boundaries to much more dangerous limits in the future.A few of this instances include refusal to stop tickling you when you tell them to knock it off, or continuous touching in seemingly innocent ways (like hugs, shoulder rubs or even repeatedly poking you in the arm like a sibling) even when you ask for personal space and the host of them.
4. They rush a new relationship forward too quickly.
I cant over-emphasize the ”redness of this flag”.Many a time,your new bae wants to practice a particularly toxic rebound and in severe cases a harmful show of narcissism.Either way,this flag warns for a world of heartbreak and pain.
5. They try to drive a wedge between you and your family and friends.
Any responsible partner would jump at an opportunity to be in a healthy relationship with your family and friends and as such any hint of hostility towards family and friends, is surely a bad signal.Don’t get me wrong when i say a partner should be cool with the folks, i do not in any way suggest that guys date girls alongside their mom’s[guy’s mum].I mean the boundaries should be made crystal clear. Anyone who wants you all to themselves is likely someone worth running far, far away from before they sink their claws in any deeper.
6. They describe all their exes as “crazy.”
Some relationships end so badly that we’re still sour at an ex or two years down the line—but if your new partner spews vitriol at any and all of their “crazy” former lovers every chance they get, it’s a good clue that they were and possibly are the problem.
7. They’re cruel to their parents.
Everyone struggles with their folks sometimes (show me someone who blindly worships Mom and Dad as a grown adult and I’ll show you a liar), but keep your eye open for partners who have a fundamental lack of respect for their parents. (Unless their parents are abusive, in which case, they’re beyond justified in refusing to be nice with them if they so choose.) If they can bear to be super harsh and ungrateful to the people who literally gave them life, what does that say about how they’ll treat others who get close to them?
8. They cheated on their last partner with you.
It might be wise to learn a little more about this person’s romantic history, because there’s a good chance that every relationship they’ve ever had has overlapped with the next one—in which case it’s only a matter of time before they cheat on you too.
9. They refuse to make your relationship public.
Imagine being bought a new toy as a child you wouldn’t rest until the person you hold in high esteem as well as your peers see this new toy of yours.That’s exactly how it is with relationships, If you are in a serious relationship,Girl/Guy,your patner wouldnt mind introducing you to people that matter in the least. Some people simply don’t like splashing their personal life onto social media or even talking much about their feelings with friends, but that’s different from flat-out hiding your partnership, which is about as glaringly red as a flag can get.
10 . They’re incapable of apologizing.
That is unacceptable. It shows that there is no light at the end of the tunnel for your relationship.In relationships, fallouta are inevitable but the strength and beauty of a relationship lies in the ability to look past our differences, make up and move on. When a partner is incapable of apologizing, the relationship is as futile as fetching water with a basket!